Do you have a personal network of people who help you to be all that you can be? Take a few minutes and see if you can list three people in each of the following categories who are now a part of your support system.

  • Who admires you and affirms your success?
  • Who gives you valuable information?
  • Who helps you get things done?
  • Who supports you when you’re having emotional difficulty?
  • Who could help you negotiate for a major purchase like a house or a car?
  • Who gives you physical nurturing (hugs, backrubs, etc.) when you need it?
  • Who helps you explore new things that interest you?
  • Who will just listen to you when you want to complain?
  • Who will answer your silly or personal questions about things you think you’re already supposed to know?
  • Who teaches you how to do things?
  • Who plays with you?
  • Whom could you call in an emergency in the middle of the night?
  • Who challenges you to achieve more than you think you can?

Everyone needs resources in each of these categories. You may find that only one or two people=s names show up in your answers over and over again. That may be alright or you may be putting too much pressure on someone else.

Think about whether you have the support system you need right now. Having a great support network can make a big difference in your life. What are the areas in which you need more support? Do you know what you need to do to connect with the new people you need to make a part of your life this year?

A support group or a personal coach can help you get going and provide with you with the boost you need to create the wonderful life you deserve.

Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., has 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist, personal coach, public speaker and author. This article is adapted from her book, An Action Plan For Your Inner Child: Parenting Each Other.

[tags]Personal Growth, Self Help, Self-Improvement, Relationships[/tags]