If you’ve watched the video or read the book of “The Secret,” you may be frustrated when you try and try to attract something and it just doesn’t show up in your life.

You’re not alone. When people experience that the Law of Attraction it does work, it’s usually because they are wholeheartedly committed to the outcome they are seeking. The problem is that most people are not wholeheartedly committed to anything.

The reason you’re not wholeheartedly committed to something is almost always because on some level you understand that getting what you want means that you’ll have to give up something else. Or you know that getting what you want will bring additional challenges with it, and you’re not quite ready to face those challenges.

Sometimes bringing the information about why you’re holding back into your awareness makes a difference. This simple tool may help you figure out what additional steps you have to take before you can be wholeheartedly committed to your goal.

All you have to do is complete, these three sentences. It’s all right if you discover that you have several different ways to complete each sentence. Just go ahead and include anything you happen to think. The more information you have about yourself, the easier it will be for you to achieve what you wish for.

1. Now that I am (or have) __________(my goal) _____________, I am afraid I will _________________________________________________.

2. Now that I am (or have) __________(my goal) _____________, I have to _________________________________________________.

3. Now that I am (or have) __________(my goal) _____________, I get to _________________________________________________.

Now comes the fun part.

Start with statement number three. That’s where you experience the reward for achieving your goal. You don’t have to wait to achieve your goal to start enjoying your reward. You can start right now.

For example, if your reward is to travel, you can at least start planning your trip. If you do nothing more than get some travel brochures or watch a video about the place that you want to visit you’ll start to experience the excitement of achieving your goal. You might even take a simple, inexpensive, short trip and use it to imagine the joys of more extensive travel in the future.

Now look at statement number one. I don’t know what you are afraid of, if you achieve your goal. I know that I am sometimes afraid that achieving a particular goal will mean I have to spend more time on it that I want to, so let’s take that as an example. I might complete the sentence, “I am afraid I’ll be too busy to do the other things I love to do.”

The task here is to transform that negative statement into a positive affirmation. My affirmation is, “I have time to do everything I want to do with plenty of time left over.”

Once you have the affirmation, which may seem like a lie when you first write it, you have a new possibility to consider. What if I could have my goal, and still have time to do the other things I want to do? I may not really believe it’s possible — yet, but if I thought it was true, he would be easier to commit to my goal.

Say this affirmation, write this affirmation, record this affirmation and listen to it until it seems as if it might possibly be true. (Watch for another post about working with affirmations.) Believing that it’s possible to achieve your goal without the negative consequences makes it easier for you to accept it when it comes to you.

You can also turn statement two into a positive affirmation, just as you did for statement one. Follow the same procedure.

Doing this process will help you to discover one of two things. You may not really want your goal after all and that’s perfectly okay. Or you may now really want it with all your heart.

Once you remove your ambivalence about attracting your goal, you will be free to see all of the opportunities you have for actually achieving your dream.

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[tags]Self Help, Self-Improvement, Personal Growth[/tags]