What’s Really Keeping You Stuck?
As I listened to a talk about how hard it was to forgive past wrongs and let go of the hurt that accompanied them, I wanted to stand up and tell the group about this book that shows how to release that hurt quickly and easily.
Then I started to think about the “why.” Why don’t we want to get rid of emotional or physical stuff that seems to be useless or even harmful?
Sometimes it’s simply because we think holding on will cause less pain than revisiting old wounds. At other times, we hold on because of a story we tell ourselves that we will finally get the result we’ve been waiting for like the apology or love we know we deserve.
And sometimes it takes less energy to just keep it tucked away in a closet and forget about it until the clutter becomes overwhelming.
I held on to my favorite doll and the box of doll clothes I had lovingly created for her hoping that my daughter or granddaughter would enjoy playing with them. About 10 years after neither of them had shown any interest at all in my cherished keepsakes, I decided it was time to give them to children who would appreciate them—a good friend’s granddaughters.
As I revisited the contents of the box one last time, I photographed everything and realized that I cared far more about the clothes than about the doll. I marveled at the meticulous work and creative designs my 9 and 10-year-old self had produced. I had been holding on waiting for the acknowledgement I finally delivered to myself.
Sometimes when you use the 3-sentence process to let something go, you discover your “why;” the real reason you’ve been holding on. Maybe then you can find a way to get what is really important, and if not, to let that go too. Start now.
This post is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 49 revised edition, Page 60 original of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®). You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit.