Who Taught You to Police Yourself?
Does telling yourself “I should do this or that” help you get things done or does it help you feel guilty or anxious about not doing them? Most people report it rarely helps.
Remember when Yoda, in Star Wars, said, “Do. Or do not. There is no try.” Could you change that to “Do. Or do not. There is no should.”
I know it’s hard to let go of a habit like shoulding on yourself and I invite you to try this experiment. All you need to do is say three sentences aloud and then sit quietly for at least 30 seconds after each one and notice what you are thinking about and/or feeling.
“I retrieve all my energy bound up in the word ‘should’ and take it to the right place in my Self.”
After 30 seconds say: “I remove all non-me energy related to the word ‘should’ from all of my cells, from all of my body and from my personal space and send it to where it truly belongs.”
Notice your thoughts for another 30 seconds and then say: “I retrieve all my energy bound up in all my reactions to the word “should” and take it to the right place in my Self.”
Sit quietly for another 30 seconds. Then go back to your ordinary activities. During the next few days, notice what, if anything, has changed about what you say when you talk to yourself. Read Letting It Go and learn more about this process.
This post is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 69 revised edition, Page 76 original of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®). You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit.