Is Your Need to Be Right Costing You Peace?
I have houseguests that I love dearly. They take care of themselves and help me as well. BUT instead of the dishwasher being full of clean dishes and the kitchen counter being clean when I come downstairs, the opposite is true. The dishwasher has been emptied, and the counter is messy and I react just a little bit. It’s not what I expect. It’s wrong.
Of course it isn’t wrong, it’s just different. So many things in the world are like that—not wrong, just different or not the way I would have done them. It’s how you feel when the restaurant menu changes and eliminates your favorite dish.
My emotional reaction is triggered anyhow, despite the information. I bet that yours is too.
The Logosynthesis® basic process I teach in this book helps. My all-purpose trigger to insert in the sentences is “this belief that the world should be the way I want/expect it to be.” Sometimes I say, “this fantasy that the world should be different.” Use whatever makes sense to you.
After you get accustomed to using this process, you don’t even need to use all the sentences. All you need to do is start and your memory takes over. All I need to say to myself is “I retrieve all my energy bound up in this belief that the world should be different.” Or “I apply Logosynthesis to this fantasy” and I feel relief and move on. Try it, it’s easy to learn and it works.
This post is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 74 revised edition, Page 82 original of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®). You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit.