Are you struggling with your weight? I was.
In my family food and love were the same thing. My parents both showed love by feeding us abundantly. I was trained from birth to eat when and what I was offered. (Over 80 years later, I have my mother’s notes to prove it.) Cleaning my plate was how I let them know I accepted their love.
By the time I was 14, I was quite fat. I didn’t discover that until someone took a picture of me from behind. I didn’t discover the relationship between food and love until much, much later.
I learned to follow a weight loss diet when I was 15, and for many years managed to discipline myself to maintain a healthy weight.
Then, I discovered the radical concept of paying attention to what I liked best, to eat it whenever possible and to stop eating when I felt full. That required a new kind of discipline. It had never occurred to me to consult my own body.
I needed to change some important beliefs about myself and others along the way and still found myself eating to please others instead of myself. Each time I did, I gained weight.
Then I learned the process I share in “Letting It Go” and let go of the belief that “I am supposed to eat to please others.” What a relief!
It does take time and focus to learn this strategy. It’s worth it.
This post is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 103 revised edition, Page 116 original of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®). You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit.