Do You Want Control or Do You Want Help?
Many years ago, my husband asked me a question about my kitchen:
“Do you want it done perfectly, or do you want help?”
It was a shocking moment.
At the time, I was certain it was important to maintain control over just about everything. I valued order, efficiency, and doing things the “right” way. What I didn’t see was how much energy I was using to hold everything in place, and how hard it was to let anyone else in.
I didn’t have the tools I share in Letting It Go. And letting go of my perfectly organized kitchen? It was really, really hard.
You may recognize yourself here. You know how to do things well. You may even believe that things won’t work unless you manage them. So you hold on, sometimes tightly, even when it’s exhausting.
Over time, I’ve learned something different. I still feel that pull toward control. But now I can take my energy out of the belief that I am in control or that I should be in control of everything around me.
That shift changes everything. I relax. Choices open up. Help becomes possible.
You don’t have to force yourself to “just let go.” That rarely works.
Letting It Go gives you a simple way to release the beliefs that keep you holding on so you can have more ease, more support, and more freedom, without losing who you are.
This post is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 55 revised edition, Page 60 original of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®). You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit.