Are You Still Arguing About a Real Loss?
When I asked my husband and sous chef to cut up some vegetables, he said he’d do it when he finished another task. An hour later I discovered he hadn’t cut the vegetables. I reminded him, and he got up and did the chore.
What’s remarkable about that is that I wasn’t angry that he forgot. For a very long time, each time he forgot something I would take it as a personal affront. Then I recognized that he was forgetting his own things too. I understood that it was part of a neurological process he couldn’t control. No matter how much I complained, he was not going to be able to remember many things.
After 60 years of a marriage partnership, now remembering things for both of us had become my chore. It wasn’t and isn’t fair, and I had trouble accepting my new reality. I was still angry.
As I’ve said many times, the time you need Logosynthesis the most is the time you forget to use it. I needed the three sentences and even though I teach it and write about it, I forgot to use my tool.
When I finally remembered, I inserted “this belief that he should be able to remember things” into the sentences. That was when my anger vanished.
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This post is a comment I wrote about a passage on Page 73 revised edition of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®). You can see the passage in the book. You can also see the excerpt here. This link will take you to Bublish.com, where I regularly publish comments on parts of this book. This is a site where authors share of their work. You can subscribe to my musings, there, as well as to the musings of many other authors. It’s a great place to learn about new books and I recommend that you visit.